Go to the fundraiser with the mindset of supporting the cause you care about, but be open to meeting someone new. Attitude is everything. This particular suggestion has worked well for many gay men who were formerly single. Do you like photography?
Even if you can only be a greeter for an annual event or work the coat check, for example, it is something. If they are an acquaintance, why not consider going out for a coffee? You may be thinking that using apps and websites seems silly, but many gay men have met the guy of their dreams by using these types of platforms. I need a guy whom Is serious. I like animals
What about painting, fitness, biking, aviation, cooking, horticulture, and so forth? One of the great things about about taking a class is the built-in advantage of a shared interest! Many classes are free or at little cost. You can find them by doing a Google search using your hometown or county in the search terms and seeing what pops up. Chose a community class you are genuinely interested in and not just one where you think all of the hot men will be. Remember, it is only a shared interest if it is genuine.
This particular suggestion is a twofer when you think about it. First, you get the benefit of giving the gift of yourself to a cause you care about. Second, you will undoubtedly meet new people.
More than a few happily partnered gay men have reported that they met their man through this approach. And so if you care about the environment for example, why not contact your local Greenpeace? If your passion is supporting your local LGBT community center, why not call them to see how they can use your gifts? Some people worry about the time commitment required to volunteer for an organization. This is a very valid concern. It helps if you are up front about what you can and cannot do when you speak to the volunteer coordinator.
Even if you can only be a greeter for an annual event or work the coat check, for example, it is something. And hey, a little bit of something is better than a whole lot of nothing. Yep, you read that right!
A professional organization to which you may already belong likely has a chapter dedicated for LGBT members. The point here is that whatever you do for employment, there is likely a professional organization with a gay-focused subdivision. Almost all of them hold events, including socials, mixers, and fundraisers.
If you belong to one of these associations, great—your work is half done. If not, why not look for one that fits your particular background? As mentioned earlier, dating is a numbers game. Some may recoil at this suggestion, but guess what? Many partnered men have reported meeting their husband at their local gay-friendly church or spiritual center. There are a lot of gay men who are deeply spiritual—and not just the bat-crap, self-loathing types that we often hear about, either.
If you have a local place of worship or other community-based venue for spirituality and you identify with what is offered, why not give it a try? More and more, religious organizations are recognizing that LGBT folks have spiritual needs. If you are one of those people who are not sure what you believe in, consider taking the Belief-o-Matic self-assessment.
Did you know there are gay communities of Agnostics, Quakers, Pagans, Humanists, and so forth? There sure are! And there are gay atheists who congregate, as well. Take the self-assessment to see where you fit in. Obviously, going to a local gay-friendly church or spiritual center should be about your spiritual nourishment and well-being. Think about this first before you decide which venue for spirituality is best for you.
The dream that one day, you will meet the guy of your dreams is a wonderful thing to dream about. But fantasizing and doing something to make it happen are two different things. If you want to meet your next boyfriend, then you will have to take control of the process. The Promethean spark of love only happens if there are two available people who happen to be at the right place at the right time. Why not try something new? Tomorrow could be a great day!
Sign in or sign up and post using a HubPages Network account. Comments are not for promoting your articles or other sites. I am introverted and shy in public. I am single and searching on the East coast of the USA. Firstly, I want to know how many people actually sign up at community colleges to "meet" people. Not to mention Should I mention how many millennials are in debt for college loans.
Have you been to the rural south? Sure I can volunteer at Walmart. Or volunteer at a local hospital But these are hardly two places I'd imagine meeting a compatible match. I've seen these advice tips given all over the internet and I'm convinced thise that are giving them live in either New York, LA or some other multimillion populous.
For guys like me, stuck in the south Or driving an hour to a gay bar since there aren't even any of those around. And these alliance groups?
I've searched everywhere for a local chapter of any of these organizations and not 1 to be found anywhere near where I live. And I sure your next suggestion will be to relocate, and while that may be the best option Why is it that only gay men that live in places like NY or LA seem to have such wonderful lives?
Are the rest of us just suppose to deal with it or join you?
All in all I'd rather have Cancer quite personally. I am mature, Italian, tan, gray bottom but versatile looking for a fit masculine top who is versatile but likes to take charge. I enjoy men with nice size packages - not small ones. I host on the southshore mid suffolk county, Long Island. Locals preferred. The last relationship i was in lasted 9 years but there were signs day one he brought items from his last marriage and told me he could not get ride of them wedding picture i still stayed faithful until he sleeping with my best friend and i did not find out until he had died from aids and i never touch my partner and got tested my test came back neg.
I was hurt i am ok but still single do not want my nexts partner to be controling or hurt me i have faith. Well, this is a helpful article I'm still single and I really can't tell if these venues for meeting guys really work Think more of the problem is gay culture itself.
Finding men that are men that know what they want out of life takes time. Shallow is the thing that runs rampant in the culture and it just gets old. Main thing, you have to be true to yourself and what you seek and stay away from all the unnecessary drama and bull. In bigger cities, these are options, where I live, things to do or clubs to join are pretty much non-existent.
Just have to remain positive and realize you don't need someone in your life to be happy A little about me I currently live in sunny Arizona.